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| I finally got the balls to call him. Wow. It was incredible. He was pretty much crying because he was so happy to hear from me. He's such a fuckin cool guy. So laid back. He's 42, a musician and training to be a firefighter. I called him and left a message saying "Hey this is Megan Goldstein, pretty sure you know who I am and if that's the case we have some catching up to do, if not... Than you might want to call me anyways." Gave him my number and blahblah, a couple hours later he called me back. Said, "Hey, daughter." and we both just started laughing. I told him I didn't even know where to start and he was saying the same thing. From the beginning it was just good vibes, we talked for about 2 hours. We moved from Berkely when I was almost 2. Norman was in my life until I was 3, he moved to Eugene so that he could be in my life and my mom was planning on having both my dads raise me. The reason for that was because of the money, Norman had none and my dad had a lot. But my mom and dad weren't right for each other. When I was 3 my Aunt told my dad that he wasn't really my father and that cut Norman out of my life. My mom took me to see him once my mom and dad got a divorce, when I was about 7. That's how I remember him, but than he told me he was my father. So he lost me. I could tell how hard it was for him to lose me. He was almost crying telling me the story. That's when we moved to Lake Oswego, and he didn't hear from me again. He said he's been trying to look for me but couldn't find me. Which makes me think, my mom always seemed to be running away from something every time we moved. I was wondering why the plans changed so drastically when I moved back to Oregon, and how she insisted I moved with her to Hawaii. So he's a really funny guy, I'm so glad I finally got to talk to him. We're going to meet up when I move up there and that should be really interesting. He wrote me a song and I can't wait to hear it. I feel so bad, he cared about me so much and my mom just took me away from him and moved away. Didn't tell him where we were going. I feel even worse, because I have no idea how my dad is going to take this. If I want a relationship with Norman at all, I can't just keep it from him. But if I tell him I think it'll really hurt his feelings. Normans a very artsy guy. He said if I ever go to Thailand he can send me in the right direction b/c he spent a while traveling over there. Also I have places to stay all around Holland and Italy. Haha All his family knows about me, and my biological grandmother really wants to see me again. They were pretty much all waiting for me. I dunno it's still kind of trippin me out. I was so happy after I talked to him though, but the last thing I want to do is hurt my dad. | ||||
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| Wow, fucking amazing. That's so intense that you just got all this information about your past from this man who is your bio-dad, yet you hardly even know him. It's so cool that he's been waiting for you all this time, and that you finally found him. | ||||||
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| I know, It's crazy. I know I don't know him at all, but it's weird... I feel like we already have this bond. You know? Hah I might be crazy, and I guess now that I think about it it's a little weird. I didn't really think about the obligation that comes with the whole situation either... It's going to be kinda weird at first, but I'm sure things will get better. | ||||||
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| 'Course you guys have an instant connection, you are half of him! James and I have a connection where I can tell what he is thinking just by looking at his face. The connection between a parent and a child is undescribable, and I bet when you meet him you will feel like you've found a lot of yourself. | ||||||
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| this is amazing! i'm so happy for you. he sounds like a fucking awesome guy. you're life is going to change so much now. you have a whole new adventure waiting for you, and a whole new family. honestly, youre dad i'm sure saw this day coming. there will probably be some jealousy, but he raised you and you love him as your father, and he knows that. you're mature enough to handle this situation, and i think if anything in the end your dad will be happy for you. just break it to him slowly and honestly. love you darling | ||||||
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| My suggestion would to be tell your dad that he raised you, supported you and were always a part of your life, and that you love him. Tell him that you want a relationship with your birthfather because it's part of your story and history, and not because he's not enough of a dad. Use the quote "it takes a village to raise a child" and that knowing your birth father doesn't make you love him any less. He will always be your dad. That's really awesome that you talked to him. That sounds wonderful, I'm so glad you were able to find him and that he was so interested in knowing you. | ||||||
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