Rolo (heartlocket) wrote,
@ 2009-08-24 23:34:00

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I have a very simple request to ask of you people. Is there someone out there willing to teach me about women? I have attempted to figure them out but the two that I have been able to spend the most time with are so vastly different in personality, preferences, and temperament that I have not been able to really understand anything.

I tried to learn from Lelouch but Suzaku then informed me that he was dumber than I was in the matter. So I attempted to learn from Suzaku and Kallen told me Suzaku was stupid. I am now in need of a new teacher. Preferably one who allows oxygen to reach their brain cells.

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	glassofthegods 2009-08-25 05:51 am UTC (link)
	t sounds like your experience has been very complicated, Rolo-kun. I'm Sasakura Ryuu, and I've met a lot of different kinds of people in my lifetime, so perhaps I could be of some assistance to you. (Reply to this)(Thread)

	heartlocket 2009-08-25 06:12 am UTC (link)
	How are you with women though. I'm not speaking of just people I'd like to narrow my focus down to females. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	glassofthegods 2009-08-25 06:14 am UTC (link)
	I haven't gotten slapped by or unintentionally offended any of them. And I have many happy female friends back home. What exactly would you like to know about them? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	heartlocket 2009-08-25 06:20 am UTC (link)
	Ah. I see so my brother must be bad with women. I believe he has been slapped. Though does only have female friends make you gay? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	glassofthegods 2009-08-25 06:23 am UTC (link)
	No, but it does imply you have social issues. I do have male friends as well, but I wasn't going to mention them since the focus here is females And being slapped does not imply you are bad with women. It implies that you have had discord with them in the past. I am good enough with woman that I don't have discords with them. Does that help? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	heartlocket 2009-08-25 06:26 am UTC (link)
	Or perhaps it is the woman's mental issue for slapping him. Or is it never the girl's fault. I wish to learn how to properly interact with women. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

glassofthegods
2009-08-25 06:32 am UTC (link)

If there is any discord in an interaction between two people, it's usually both people involved's fault. Now the fault doesn't always land 50-50, but both people are to blame for it. Thought typically being slapped is a sign the woman is under the impression the person being slapped has done something very seriously wrong. If you are being slapped you should deeply consider why you are being slapped. Though, it is generally a bad idea to ask the woman that slapped why they did it moments afterwards. I recommend giving them some time is that is the case.

Ah, now interacting properly with women. I guess the best place to start would be being polite and kind. People in general like that, and it tends to be extra well received from woman (especially if a man is delivering that kindness).

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	heartlocket 2009-08-25 06:38 am UTC (link)
	How do you know all this if you've never been slapped? Is it correct to be kind even if you don't mean it? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

glassofthegods
2009-08-25 06:42 am UTC (link)

I'm a bartender by trade, that's an occupation that allows me to meet a lot of people and observe them interacting with other people. On top of my own life experiences I have observed thousands of other people's experiences which allows me to know this.

It is correct to be kind when first meeting a woman, regardless of who they are. But if they know you well, then you don't have to be kind if you don't mean it. If you know someone really well it is best to be honest about how you are feeling. Though, it is not a good a idea to be mean to anyone, man or woman. If someone is making you angry, you should figure out why and try to calmly confront that person about it.

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	heartlocket 2009-08-25 06:48 am UTC (link)
	I thought that generally drunk lonely people picked up one another in bars. Is this incorrect? I see. Though how does one set themselves up with another person. Can you explain how love works? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

glassofthegods
2009-08-25 06:58 am UTC (link)

That depends a great deal on the bar in question. A cheep bar with a small selection of liqueur with a single bartender that wears more casual clothes generally appears more to lonely drunks than a more sophisticated bar. Regardless of the kind of bar, it is the bartender's job to heal the souls of those who sit at his counter.

I'm not sure what you mean by 'set themselves up', but I can try to explain love.

Love is a positive, affectionate relationship between two people. There are many kinds of love for this reason. There is familial-love, the love between family members. The bonds of this love can be very deep and affectionate, but there is no romance in family love. There is just respect and endearment towards the others. Depending on how tight-knit a family is, depends on how deep their love for one another is.

There is also the love between friends. This is not dissimilar to family love, but it generally not as deep. Really close and long time friends have family like love between them.

Then there is romance love. This is love between people, usually of the opposite gender, but not necessarily. This is the love that wants them to bond themselves to the other person and start a family of their own with them. This, in a sense, is the deepest form of any kind of love and is also the most complicated and hardest to understand. The best way to distinguish it from other kinds of love is by the sexual desires that accompany it.

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	heartlocket 2009-08-25 07:04 am UTC (link)
	Oh well one of my friends is being set up on a date. So I wanted to know about that is all. How do you know the difference between romantic love and friend love? Also what are sexual desires? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

glassofthegods
2009-08-25 07:13 am UTC (link)

When someone is being set up on a date but another person it is usually for one of two reasons: a) the person setting up the date believes the person going on the date needs to open up and try to experience romance or b) the person being set up on the date is too shy to find a date under their own power and has asked the other person for help.

You have friends, right? You already share friendship love with those people. This love drives you to help them when they are in need, comfort them when they are upset, and generally means their happiness is also your happiness. Also, your friends feel the same way about you, your happiness also being their happiness.

Now, romantic love is different. When you share romantic love with someone, being in the room with them makes your day better. Seeing their smile makes you happier. You are very protective of them as well. You do not want to share this person with others, you would rather be beside them at all times. Someone you romantically love knows all your secrets, all of your fears. You have complete trust and respect for this person. And, they are not your family unless you are married.

You've past puberty, right? Surely you've noticed that your penis is sometimes stiff in the morning and sensitive to touch....

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	allhailzero 2009-08-25 07:19 am UTC (link)
	Ah, sorry to butt in on this...er-rather interesing lesson.. But I don't think it's appropriate for you to bring up my underage brother's privates, thank you very much. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	glassofthegods 2009-08-25 07:21 am UTC (link)
	Ah, good. Would you mind explaining to your brother what 'sexual desires' are? That was getting really awkward for me. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	allhailzero 2009-08-25 07:23 am UTC (link)
	I would mind! That'd be awkward for anyone! (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	glassofthegods 2009-08-25 07:24 am UTC (link)
	Yeah, but your brother should know what is going on with his body. If there aren't parents around to explain that to him, then the responsibility lies with his next eldest male relative..... (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	allhailzero 2009-08-25 07:29 am UTC (link)
	Technically the eldest male relative of his is not here at the moment to explain that sort of thing so why don't we just drop that part of the discussion out completely, shall we? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	heartlocket 2009-08-25 07:30 am UTC (link)
	Perhaps you should ask questions too so you can explain things to me later. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	allhailzero 2009-08-25 07:33 am UTC (link)
	I'd rather not consult strangers on such manners. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	heartlocket 2009-08-25 07:34 am UTC (link)
	Oh....Did I do something bad then? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	allhailzero 2009-08-25 07:44 am UTC (link)
	I'm sure you had good intentions. I just think this sort of thing is a bit inappropriate to be asking everyone... (Reply to this)(Parent)

	glassofthegods 2009-08-25 07:32 am UTC (link)
	...Look if you are too embarrassed to do it, I can come over to your place and explain it to your brother in a private room, but I would seriously rather not. But really, he's your family and he does need to be knowing this information sooner as opposed to later. The fact that he's that age and ignorant of these matters is only going to get him into trouble. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	allhailzero 2009-08-25 07:40 am UTC (link)
	You want to talk to my brother about sexual desires in a private room!? I think not, sir! Are you some sort of pervert? He can find out about these things from resonable sources. Perhaps a book. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

glassofthegods
2009-08-25 07:42 am UTC (link)

And no, I don't want to do that. Really, I don't. But I feel strongly about it getting done. The only reason I offered is because I am an adult and this would be, in some ways, a less awkward thing for me to explain than you. But in other ways it will be a lot more awkward. Because he's not my kin.

Though, seriously, I can't imagine what it must be like to be your clueless brother. I would be mortified if I found my body doing strange things without explanation.

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	allhailzero 2009-08-25 07:51 am UTC (link)
	I see. Regardless, though that's a strange strange offer for you to be making and it's usual that you feel so strongly about this, sir. He isn't clueless about that though. It's a normally occuring body function that can be explained by science. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

glassofthegods
2009-08-25 07:55 am UTC (link)

I'm just alarmed because where I come from most pre-teens know what 'sexual desires' means. It is really alarming for a teen to be not knowing what that is.

I just hope that your brother looses that bit of ignorance soon, that is all.

And I'm sorry if I've upset you by trying to answer your brother's question about love. I often get asked it by adults, so this is just a more detailed version of the same explanation I would had given them.

(ooc: off to bed, night)

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allhailzero
2009-08-25 08:03 am UTC (link)

One should not assume all worlds expose their young to such adult matters.

I apologize if it seems I'm so opposed of your "helpfulness", sir but anyone would find it reasonable for an older brother to be alarmed and protective when a stranger starts explaining those sort of things to their sibling, sir. I'm not upset by you answering his questions but he did not ask about what happens to his privates in the morning and that's highly inappropriate to even bring up.

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	heartlocket 2009-08-25 07:21 am UTC (link)
	Oh great! You can learn things too then. I'm learning a lot. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	allhailzero 2009-08-25 07:23 am UTC (link)
	Rolo why are you asking strangers to explain rather personal subjects with you? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	heartlocket 2009-08-25 07:27 am UTC (link)
	Because apparently you're clueless, Suzaku is a moron and Kallen is a girl. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	allhailzero 2009-08-25 07:30 am UTC (link)
	Ah.... (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	heartlocket 2009-08-25 07:31 am UTC (link)
	Do you have a better suggestion? (Reply to this)(Parent)

	heartlocket 2009-08-25 07:21 am UTC (link)
	Can you be romantically in love with more than one person then? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	glassofthegods 2009-08-25 07:23 am UTC (link)
	Technically yes. If you find yourself in that situation, I strongly recommend picking one person and trying to only act on your love for them only. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	heartlocket 2009-08-25 07:29 am UTC (link)
	How do I pick one then? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	glassofthegods 2009-08-25 07:30 am UTC (link)
	That varies greatly from person to person. It's something you'll have to figure out yourself. But, I would try the person I loved most. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	heartlocket 2009-08-25 07:31 am UTC (link)
	Oh. Then what do I do with the other ones? (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

glassofthegods
2009-08-25 07:35 am UTC (link)

Well you would still love them, but as friends.

Most romance starts from friendship anyways. So instead of letting that love grow into romance, you leave it as friendship.

Also, do remember that these are relationships with real people. There's going to be some give and take for both parties and there's going to be compromising. You should be considerate of the other person's feelings in these matters as well.

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